N.V.S. is underestimated by general practioners, and therapists. They are often misdiagnosed. You have to be gifted to recognize this symptoms. Therapists who are known in this area are underrated and still in minority. Victims who suffer are from N.V.S. are exhausted. Tina Turner has written abook about her relationship with Ikeand is also a survivor of violence in her relationship. She described her life with Ike and made her comeback. When she went a way she had no single penny. Some people say how is it possible that she survived. She is a strong woman.
I am about 6 weeks on from researching NPD, and then having someone walk through my head switching on all of the lights in there; the revelation of what my Wife is, is akin to realising that you have been living with a Stalker, my World went dark around the edges. These disordered people are TOXIC. I have left my Wife, and have gone NO CONTACT.
You have shed light on a situation that I have been struggling to understand for years now. I am 46 and have been married for 23 years and I now realize I have been a victim of narcissistic abuse for most of my married life and quite possible was raised by a narcissistic single mother as an only child. I finally feel that I am not crazy as you validated my feelings over and over and over. Everything that you say hits the nail on the head. Your article has compelled me to research more on this subject and everything I am finding is reinforcing what I found here first with your article. I have forwarded this to my therapist who I am seeing tomorrow. I hope that he is equipped to handle this new found world. It concerns me that he has not brought this up and we have never discussed this in any sort of detail. Believe me we will be discussing it tomorrow. I am trying to build the strength to separate from my wife however like you say I am paralyzed. We have three children but only one that still lives at home (13). I am scared for me and I am scared for her as well. Not because I fear any physical harm but the mental anguish is almost unbearable at times. I pray that as I become more confident and more aware of what has happened to me that I can escape this stranglehold that unbeknownst to me has had me in its grips for years now. My story really is a book just waiting to happen. Maybe as I continue this journey I will also see it come full circle in a healing way and I just may write a book about it to maybe help others who are experiencing the same turmoil that I have endured. Thank you so much for your help and insight.
One disapointment about the book is that it leaves the reader without any feeling that perhaps we are living in a turning point, however mild. Climate change, a focus on health, and a realisation that we will never build ourselves out of traffic does seem to have forced a rethink. About 10 years ago, Bergen started putting in a light rail system to replace the trolleys that had been ripped out years earlier. Trondheim has put in a place a form of bus rapid transit as well as kilometers of bicycle lanes. Oslo, run by a alliance of left-wing parties that includes the greens, has established a car-free zone within the first ring of the city, built out bike lanes and roads, and heavily invested in the trolley system. There should be room for optimism that we might have a future that is ever slightly less car-centric.
It was while investigating e-book readers that had the possibility to open loaned books that I stumbled upon the Onyx brand and their range of Boox E-ink tablets. As the name suggests, these tablets--running on android--are geared mainly for reading purposes. But the android software lets them make use of multiple reader apps, including the Libby app, which I use to loan books from Norwegian libraries. I took the plunge and ordered an 8 inch version--about the size of an ipad mini--that also came with a stylus.
My own reflection after reading this book is that I am extremely thankful that I am able to live both an urban lifestyle while still having access to nature. My mid-sized town in Norway is easily walkable and bikeable. I can walk to just about everything I need. We chose to live in a neighborhood that is close to the city center and where we have no need of a car, but where we still have easy access to both the shore and the trails. I feel that we live a luxurious lifestyle, yet live that lifestyle without many emissions. The idea that living a life without large emissions is not just possible but feels down right luxurious gives hope for the future.
I recently read an interview with Daniel Craig, where he was asked how he felt about giving up the role of the James Bond franchise. His reply was that his goal was to make a living as an actor, and he had managed that. So he was happy. Prestige obsessed academic economists could learn something from 007.
This could have been a redevelopment where the city filled up the area with expensive apartments and expensive restaurants, like so many other waterfront redevelopments. Though there are plenty of expensive restaurants, there are also large swaths given away to public space and the arts. There is the mentioned Opera, then you have a new museum devoted to Edward Münch, which is opening in October, and finally, my favorite, the new main library. This is an amazing space, if for no other reason that you have a architectural pearl filled with high design and technology in the most central and exclusive part of Oslo, which is open to anyone and is completely free. They even have some books. I spent about 3 hours there before my train left, and enjoyed moving from nook to cranny to design chair, admiring art and design, and browsing through a few books. I think it says something very positive about a culture that such resources are devoted to something meant for everyone. Indeed, the library was filled with young people and teens, many studying, some socializing, others just relaxing. No matter, the design of the library seemed to have the intent of putting people at ease and making them feel welcome.
The book blue zones is a tour of about a half dozen communities around the world where there has been documented extraordinary longevity, with a disproportionate number of people making it to 100 or beyond. Common to all these zones - from the seventh day adventists in California to the island of Okinawa - is a mostly vegetarian diet, with meat eaten, if at all, only on special occasions.
But one of the things that I have really appreciated about living with Tyr is the wonder of seeing an animal that is very clearly built for a certain environment and to do a certain job. Tyr, as a veteran, does not run like he probably did as a young dog, but seeing his effortless gallop on a jogging trip is a thing of beauty. Tyr had little problem napping through most of the day, but he always livened up towards the evening. Around the time we like to settle down to watch some tv or read a book, he could become desperate to get outside for a trip, jumping up on the couch where we were sitting, and if that didn't work, swatting my face with his paw. This was sometimes annoying, but also part of the deal of living with a dog with a strong instinct to run and move. Huskies are well known to be adept diggers, and it is impressive to see Tyr plow through grass and dirt, which he instinctively does after having relieved himself. We had nice weather for most of the time Tyr was with us, but Tyr was completly nonplussed by the days with rain. If anything, he seemed to appreciate the cool precipitation as we jogged through the trails.
The answer, as Javier Blas and Jack Farchy tell it, are a group of swashbuckling, risk taking, mostly white men, who call themselves commodities traders. Commodities trading comprises a broad range of companies and individuals, who know the intricacies of buying, selling and transporting everything from precious metals in Africa to Ukranian wheat. But the focus of the book is on a few prominent firms and individuals, whose dealings have landed them in the news, and sometimes worse. Looming over the book is the towering figure of Marc Rich, who I had chiefly heard about in connection with his controversial pardoning by Bill Clinton in the last hours of his presidency.
Rest: Why You Get More Done When You Work Less by Alex Soojung-Kim Pang fits well into the mold. The author talks about the advantages of deep, concentrated work, but the focus of the book is about the importance of the time away from work. The book mixes anecdotes of the rest-habits of famous artists, scientists and leaders, with references to modern research that explains why rest can be so important.
Lo concludes his book with a chapter on financing medicines. This seemed like a bit of a tangent to the rest of the book, but it was still interesting, and clearly a question he is passionate about. The basic problem is that there are huge costs and risks associated with developing new drugs. This can mean problems with acquiring financing for research and development of new drugs, especially for rare diseases. Lo puts forward the suggestion of creating a type of index fund for drug development. An investor would not need to invest in one big idea, but rather could spread their money across many different medical research, and in the process radically reducing the risk. In turn biomedical companies would get access too much lower cost capital. The available financing for important biomedical research would expand greatly.
I guess this is the year of the financial fraud books. Two of the most praised financial books that came out this year were Bad Blood, about the Theranos fraud and collapse , and the story about the theft from the Malaysian 1 MDB fund, Billion Dollar Whale by Tom Wright and Bradley Hope, which I just finished listening too. There are some similarities between the stories. They both feature young can-doers who end up blinded and deluded by their own ambition. Both books also describe frauds that were succesful essentially because of a confidence trick: they surrounded themselves with famous and powerful people, which encouraged confidence and deflected suspicion. Both books are also written by Wall Street Journal journalists who played roles in in uncovering the frauds. 2b1af7f3a8